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Are you talking to yourself? Put a filter on it and start monitoring

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I received an inspiring message from Lyndel Daly (Life coaching 4u) today. This blog post is a copy of her message, but lets start with a description of what life coaching skills are (from Life Coaching 4u Facebook group)

What are life coaching skills?

These are skills that you can apply in your life with little effort but can have a transformational impact on who you are being.

In your life, if you continue doing the same thing in you will get the same results. These skills support you in changing what you are doing which will produce a different result.

So if there are area of your life where you are feeling despondent or stuck, take on the challenge to change your thoughts which will change your emotions and actions which will change the results/ circumstances of your life. Continue reading →

Golden rule: Deliver on your promises and the expectations of others

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To be able to deliver you have to know the expectations. No matter if it is a project at work or in a relationship. It all comes down to communication.

You expect things from your friends, family, colleagues, politicians, priests, leaders and a whole lot of other people, right? Do you think they expect anything from you? I know they do. We all expect things from each other in one way or another. Sometimes it’s unattainable, but most of the time it’s quite reasonable things.

I know my parents every Christmas wished for us “kids to behave nicely”. As a kid that felt like a strange Christmas wish, but it makes sense. And their expectation isn’t difficult to live up to. A few years down the line it might be slightly more complicated expectations but as soon as we make a promise and a commitment to something, it is our duty to deliver.

Do you know what those around you expect from you? If you say yes, are you really sure that you know? Or do you think you know? When last did you ask your manager, mum or friends what they expect from you? Have you communicated clearly what you are willing to live up to or not? I know I haven’t.

Listen and observe. Communicate clearly. And live up to your promises.

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Lose some ‘friends’ to win a life.

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Pleasing those nearest and dearest to you is a divine goal, to make them happy at almost all costs. But not if you do it at the expense of your own true self. Lose yourself and lose your life. ‘Don’t take any shit’ as Grynet said.

When is enough enough? Never, if you love the person, someone said…I don’t know so much. I think the blurry limit is when you feel you are losing yourself, losing the very essence of who you are.

Do some thinking. Speak up. Figure out what YOU want and then go for it. The right people will be there with you. If people fall out, then that’s the way it’s supposed to be. If or when the time is right they might come back into your life, but let go of things that are not good for you.

Unhealthy relationships will drain you…and in worst case scare you from having the same kind of relationship ever again. I think that some people you just can not please without losing yourself – and that’s not worth it for me.

First make yourself happy…but you be careful so it’s not on the expense of others.