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How to be a positive role model

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Are you a good person? Not only kids and teenagers need a positive role model in their lives. We all need someone to look up to. Someone that inspires us to great achievements. Someone to set an example to live by, even if they don’t know about it (but even better if they do).

Anyone can be anyone’s inspiration.

This means that you are someone’s inspiration, whether you know it or not. Live your life being a positive role model, you never know who’s watching you.

How to be a great role modelYour own role model can be anyone – international celebrity or your neighbor. It doesn’t matter who it is or if you know them in person.

The source of my inspiration always changes, depending on where I am in life. My family members, Nelson Mandela, my mentor, my co-worker, or even people I’ve only met once, just to mention a few.

How to find your role model

…and what to do when you’ve found him/her:

  1. Figure out which special traits you want to develop yourself.
  2. Find those special traits in other people.
  3. Choose your role model, someone to look up to and be inspired by.
  4. Watch, learn and then apply in reality what you want to achieve. Ask your role model how they do it, they will be more than happy to help you.

What if someone choose YOU as a source of inspiration?

Walk your talk and act with credibility. Present an ethical image. Live up to your own high set standards.

See yourself through the eyes of others – how would your own source of inspiration describe you? Or your neighbor or your family? Of course it comes down to the expectations of others, but communicate clearly and live up to your promises and you will be that positive role model.

And I beg you, tell the truth. Be honest with yourself and others. Do the right thing, always. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. No bullshit! …but use duct tape on your mouth when necessary.

Just listen more than you speak and treat everybody with respect and dignity. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view, just like you’re asking people to look at things from your point of view.

Smile!

SMILE! Life is an amazing gift! You can be and do everything you want to. With the right amount of determination and hard work all your dreams are possible.

Help others to reach their dreams by being the person they can look up to and get the inspiration from. It will come back to you…karma is a powerful thing.

Who is your cheerleader?

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Everybody wants to influence other people, one way or another. And I honestly think we do. All of us. Consciously or not. That goes for you too.

I don’t know anybody that doesn’t want to leave a mark, let it be big or small, in this world. It could be anything from being praised in the books of history for saving the world, to as simple as leaving a loving memory in the minds of the closest when it’s time to move on. We all wish to be remembered in some way, but do you know how you want to be remembered? Do you even think about it?

We all walk through life side by side with more people than I sometimes think we realize. You have an impact on people around you and people you meet, whether you know it or not. I believe that we meet people on our journey for a reason. I believe we have something to learn from every single traveler that crosses our path. It’s just a matter of figuring the lesson out…and that you can do by just simply being aware.

Open your eyes. Who pays a little bit of extra attention when you speak? Who keeps an eye on your actions, with the purpose of getting inspired? Do you honestly value this? And do you realize the effect that you have on other people? Your words and actions speaks louder than your voice…keep that in mind when strolling through your day in your own world. You know, it doesn’t matter if you like it or not, your world is also someone else’s world.

You have an impact on your fellow earth walkers. It is up to you if you care about it or not. And if you do care, it is up to you to make the best out of it. You have supporters and cheerleaders throughout your whole life. We all do. Look around you. Who is your supporter and/or cheerleader in life?

I have recognized quite a few of my supporters and cheerleaders. They make me smile and feel loved when I need it. They lift me up when I’m down. I know where to find my inspiration by now. Do you know where to find yours?

When you’ve managed to identify your enthusiastic fans do you acknowledge them? Thank them? Accept the energy and support they are so willing to give you? I know I don’t. Not always at least. I could definitely be much better in giving the same support back, but maybe that’s the way it is…not everything is given back the same way it comes from…but what goes around comes around. That’s a universal law. Pay it forward – your reward will come, but maybe from another source and direction.

Your fellow human beings are there for you and they care for you even if you don’t notice it. So, look around again. From now on, see the world through the eyes of a star…and give your followers a big smile.

Inspiration: “Lifefocus: Achieving a Life of Purpose & Influence” by Jerry Foster

Our lives are all different and yet the same

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Time to grow up.
Time to act the way you’re supposed to act when you’ve passed 30.
Time to become ‘normal’.

…and we all know what ‘normal’ is?

  • Being approximately average or within certain limits in intelligence and development
  • Conforming with a social norm or standard
  • Functioning or occurring in a natural way
  • Lacking observable abnormalities or deficiencies; not abnormal
  • Free from mental illness; sane

I think ‘normal’ is in the eyes of the beholder. There is so many different ways of being normal that there is no standardized ‘Normal’ that could be applied to all individuals in every culture and sub-culture. I am normal Here but not There and vice versa.

“We have become not a melting pot but a beautiful mosaic. Different people, different beliefs, different yearnings, different hopes, different dreams.”
- Jimmy Carter

At the end of the day you decide what is Normal to you. I just wish that we can create a world where we can live side by side and not even think about what’s Normal or not. Everybody’s different, but we are all here trying to live our lives the way we think is the best way. Let us do that. Let us live the way we want to and live your life the way you want to. Be interested in other people – not judge them by appearance. Love instead of fear your fellow beings.

Make sure there is peace where you live – the butterfly effect will sort the rest of the world out.

“We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”
- Anne Frank -

Sources:

WordReferens.com
TheFreeDictionary.com
WisdomQuotes.com

Golden rule: Deliver on your promises and the expectations of others

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To be able to deliver you have to know the expectations. No matter if it is a project at work or in a relationship. It all comes down to communication.

You expect things from your friends, family, colleagues, politicians, priests, leaders and a whole lot of other people, right? Do you think they expect anything from you? I know they do. We all expect things from each other in one way or another. Sometimes it’s unattainable, but most of the time it’s quite reasonable things.

I know my parents every Christmas wished for us “kids to behave nicely”. As a kid that felt like a strange Christmas wish, but it makes sense. And their expectation isn’t difficult to live up to. A few years down the line it might be slightly more complicated expectations but as soon as we make a promise and a commitment to something, it is our duty to deliver.

Do you know what those around you expect from you? If you say yes, are you really sure that you know? Or do you think you know? When last did you ask your manager, mum or friends what they expect from you? Have you communicated clearly what you are willing to live up to or not? I know I haven’t.

Listen and observe. Communicate clearly. And live up to your promises.

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